What if we choose the mindset that asks the question what if I don’t, instead of what if I do? It’s our choice weather we choose to become something better or different. Dreaming about who you want to become won’t get it done. At some point you have to wake up to the fact that there will be many sacrifices you’ll have to make in order to be in better shape, be a better mom or dad, Husband & Wife, better spiritually, and better with your finances.
You’ll have to recognize that you’ll have to pay the price every day. In the end your results will tell everyone what you are really committed to. It’s your choice to either STAY where you are, or to decide to GO…to the! next version of you. Neither is good nor bad. As long as you are happy.
There’s a longing deep within your soul. I believe now matter who we are and what we believe there is a voice that constantly speaks us. Sometimes it’s when we are by ourselves that we here it even more. When we are by ourselves and we are left with nothing more than our thoughts and questions.
Depending on how fulfilled we are in the areas of our Fitness, Family, Fulfillment, and Finances we can feel and discern the pain very clear. It’s a longing and emptiness that we feel in that area. A sort of inner chaos! Life directs us through our thoughts and feelings. When there is one area of our life that hurts…the universe, or god, or high power will bring that to your attention. Whatever that is for you…call it intuition…your thoughts sometimes come to you with a purpose. We choose to pay attention or ignore them.
The question is will you continue to ignore the emptiness, loneliness, and longing that speaks to us.
Chaos is inevitable! There’s no way around it. When you try to balance and juggle your life in all areas chaos will eventually show up. Understand that we are on a constant journey of moving into a state of chaos from a state of calm.
So things could be pretty good right now with in the areas your Fitness, Fulfillment, Family, and Finances. Fantastic for you! Actually we all know what someone means when they say things are “Good”. Its a knee jerk answer and “code” for I don’t have the time to explain to you how crappy I feel or to tell you how many areas of my life are falling apart.
Like I’ll just tell you that I’m good and surpress they way I really feel in hopes something will change by bottling up inside and longing to be something more. Contrats!
So I come back to this place of Chaos! Every day we must choose to battle chaos and thoughts that try to enter our mind and cause us to believe certain ways. That inevitably cause to act in certain ways or not act in certain ways.
Once this chaos hits what do you do to shift from your drift and get off the exit? Do you have any tools in place? Like mediation is an example of a tool. Your daily habits are examples of tools. Give it some thought and drop a comment. I’d love to here about them and also learn as well.
You are free to become but you’ll never outrun who you believe yourself to be. Self motivation won’t work! Sooner or later, without the proper self-awareness, you will have to battle a mindset anchored down by old stories of yourself. These are stories that we’ve accepted about ourselves and have held as truths. And they bind us down and inhibit us from operating freely towards our destiny. You must be willing to step out of the light and face your night. Once in the dark you can turn on the light and set yourself free. You must be willing to go where most no one ever wants to go. However once there you will find re-birth!
. Almost 8 months ago there were alot of promises made by individuals with alot of good intentions. Its a great time of year! Festiv too! Love the Holidays! Have you even thought about those promises you made to yourself in the past few months? . Or have you defaulted back into your same routine and same story about yourself. Maybe you’ve been saying for the last 8 months that you’ll start tomorrow to make changes in the areas of your Fitness, Your Family (Wife & Kids), & Faith (inspirational source, meditation, journaling). Whatever Faith means to you. . It’s easy to be motivated during the holiday season surrounded by family and good times. But year after year your motivation never seems to take you where you want to go. . You need to declare distinctly who you are committed to becoming, how you are going to become that person, your time frame of how long it will take you, AND YOU BETTER HAVE A CONCRETE “WHY”. . WHY DOES IT MATTER TO YOU. . & WHEN YOU BECOME THAT PERSON…HOW WILL THAT MAKE YOU FEEL?
This is the difference between Motivation and a Committment to becoming backed up by a strong Why . StayInIt! Welcome To The Hunt!
Your body & fitness is the gateway to producing results. I get it…..for so long I’ve struggled with controlling my diet and my fitness routine. When you wake up in the morning how does your body feel to you when you role out of bed? When you look in the mirror are you excited about what you see. Is your body a picture of your commitment to yourself or is it a reminder of all the times you’ve let yourself down.
What has taken me 20 years to accept is that long term results only come through small consistent daily habits. In this area of fitness this means that I’ve had to accept the fact that starting a fitness routine and running 5 miles on day one is not going to work. In fact doing that for the first week may lead to injury then effect my mental attitude and therefore every other area. Sucking the power right out of me. And there begins the cycle of failure.
If you can start by small daily habits that build on each other you’ll prove that you have commitment to yourself. It may take a little more time to see results but you will see it….no doubt. There’s nothing more disheartening then not believing yourself in what you say you are going to do.
So it really is simple. You all know what to do to get in shape. Its not complicated. We like to come up with some grand complicated scheme. It comes down to deciding on building small daily fitness habits and your commitment to seeing it through? What’s your why? Who do you want to become? You either want to be that person or you don’t.
So this quote from above from Ralph Waldo Emerson is amazing. My journey the last 6-7 months started with the need to break free of the “stories” that had imprisoned my mind and caused me to be stuck for a very long time across all areas of my life. Like I’ll save these details for another post. Consider this….that what you have been taught, by way of your family, your church, your friends have all come from a place of traditional values. Like “This is what you are suppose to be or behave or do. So your put in a box and are told to operate a certain way in the core areas of your life like in Fitness, Family, Faith, and Finances. Well ask yourself these questions? How has that “Good” Life or how as that “Good” been working for you?
Do you feel like your suffocating, Stuck, or alone in a this daily game of Life? That you say to yourself, THERE HAS GOT TO BE MORE? What if you went on a journey to Seek, Hunt, & Listen to your own voice and what its telling you to do, act, or feel. How many times have you decided to ignore that voice inside you and instead take up the mantle of traditional actions that society has somehow trophied everyone to believe is the right way?
….The moment you decide that what you know is more important then have been taught to believe….
So part of daily game of Clarity Hunt is about being intentional in our actions on a daily basis across multiple areas of our lives in Fitness, Family, Faithfulness, and Finances. Party of the daily game in being successful in this intentional living is being able to combat the negative thoughts and stories that ultimately some how decide to penetrate our Noggins! Experts estimate that we process between 2500 to 3000 thoughts per hour. Thats right! Per hour!
So with this many thoughts entering our minds its essential we are able to intentional accept and reject certain thoughts that don’t serve us. Here’s where the power of Appreciation and a Smile I found helps. I’ve found that focusing on being appreciative, smiling, and deep breathing, brings into the present. Helps me to focus on where I am now rather than what is to be in the future and whatever those thoughts are trying to tell me. Some may serve me but the others that don’t I want to get rid of.
Welcome to the Hunt. I would have you consider that there’s a daily journey that most of us find ourselves in. Searching for clarity & certainty in this daily game of life. I would have you consider that accepting “Good” doesn’t have to be the norm any more. Questions & answers like the following have become all the norm. They are safe questions and even safer answers.
How are your kids?….Good ; How’s your marriage?….Good; How’s your Wife or Husband?…Good; How’s work?….Good. Since when did “good” become so acceptable? It’s so easy for it to just roll off our tongues to these questions. Half the time I don’t think we believe that its even that Good! When you were younger did you dream that one day you’ll strive for good in all the various areas of your life?
Consider that you can be more than “Good”. In all areas of your life. In your areas of Fitness, Family, Faith, & Finances. The fact is that as adults we have built up scars through experiences, marriages, failures, & stresses. These scars play out in the form of stories that are often trigger us in certain ways. They cause us to feel a certain way and therefore, act or not act in a certain ways. They can suffocate us. And so being good is the safe play. We get us to asking ourselves “What If Questions” instead of “What if I don’t” Questions.
So our stories play out in such a way that we’ll ask what if I decided to take this loan, or take this Job?….Its a way of thinking based on past experiences. How about asking….What if I don’t?
Where in the areas of your life across the domains of your fitness, family, faith or connection, & finances are you asking the wrong question? Your asking “What If I Do” instead of “What If I don’t.”
“You Must Choose Something Different… if you want your life to be different”